Zendaya Coleman is one of the few Disney stars that we have seen transition from child star to young adult in a seamless non-hypersexual way (see Miley Cyrus, Christina Aguilera, and Britney Spears). In her latest spread for Yahoo Style the 18 year old Oakland, California native discusses her ambition, growing within Disney, future projects, and her obsession with Drake. Because I admire her, I’m gonna let her choose on my fictional boyfriend from afar. I would be remise if I didn’t acknowledge her amazing stylist Law Roach who has helped her communicate to the world through fashion that she’s no longer a kid, but that she can continue to be a role model for her young audience. She is a budding style icon and according to the interview, has plans of venturing into the business of fashion. I hope that she remains grounded and classy during her career, and I’m sure we will continue to see great things from her. Here are some of the amazing shots, and you can read the full story here.
Anyone that knows me knows that I am huge Nicki Minaj fan, but I would never call myself a ‘Barb’ because, well I’m a grown ass woman, but I digress. Today I was pleasantly suprised to see yet another magazine spread from my fave. The pictures in the Complex magazine spread were everything. The attire, hair and makeup for the shoot pefectly skewed the line between editorial and wearable looks, but the true jewel of this spread was actually the interview.
As a fan of an artist you are already predisposed to being moved by their words, but for some reason a good interview where they are actaully expressing themselves minus the music, methaphors and rhymes can resonate with you in another way. It seems to make them more vulnerable, and hence more relatable. I feel like I can identify with so much of what she revealed, but here are a few of my favorite quotes from the piece written by Lauren Nostro. For the full interview click here.
“Every woman is multifaceted. Every woman has a switch, whether she’s going to be maternal, whether she’s going to be a man-eater, whether she has to kick ass, whether she has to be one of the boys, whether she has to show the guys that she’s just as smart or smarter, she’s just as talented or creative. Women suppress a lot of their sides.”
What are your new rules? “One rule is “no more self-judgment.” I’m not judging myself; I’m not dissing what I do. I’m proud of what I’ve done and I’m proud of what I’m working on. I’ve accomplished something and I’m not going to be ashamed to be happy about what I’ve done.” What’s behind your more natural look and your street singles reminiscent of earlier “Mixtape Nicki”? “I didn’t go back to “Mixtape Nicki.” That’s how [members of the media] feel, but that’s not what I’ve done. I’ve never stopped rapping; I’ve never stopped doing freestyles; I’ve never stopped doing remixes and features; I’ve never stopped raising the bar lyrically. I understand and respect people’s opinions when they hear me do certain things and say she’s “going back,” but I haven’t gone back, I’ve moved forward. I’ve always been evolving.”
I wonder if this is that thing guys talk about when they say women are irrational and unpredictable. Some days I feel like I can conquer the world and some days I feel like I have no idea what the hell I’m doing. I have this platform and I have no idea what to do with it.
I have a few excuses for why I don’t write on here that often:
- I don’t feel like anyone is reading it anyway so who am I hurting here?
- I question my material a lot. Is this good enough? Does the site look inviting? Would anyone care to read this?
- I get paid to write for StyleBlazer and mama needs her coins honey.
I suppose I should look at this as my outlet to say what I have not been approved to say on StyleBlazer. I look at a lot of fashion blogs throughout the day and I’m baffled at the content. I consider myself to be within the world of fashion (albeit as a spectator) and I don’t even find much of it to be compelling or interesting. I find myself asking: who the hell is this for? So maybe I should be the change I want to see and write the things I would like to read. We’ll see.
There are so many opinions coming from so many different places about how women should handle being single. A number of them seem to come from guys. This past week my single friends and I read an article posted on Black Girls Are Easy. We all read it feeling like the author was shading us directly. Although much of what was written were things that most of us have discovered through failed attempts at relationships, there was still an element of undiscovered truth to his prose. However, the pseudo feminist in me doesn’t like the idea of a man telling me what I feel or how I should feel, but all that aside there were valid points made. If you have about thirty minutes to an hour to spare reading the article and then reflecting on your existence in the realm of the single, then I would advise you do it.
My takeaways and overall stance on being single are as follows:
- If you genuinely want to be in a relationship, then don’t lie to yourself about it. Admit that’s what you want whether you fear the guy doesn’t want the same or not. You can only pretend to be cool for so long before your real desires come through in the form of a long drunken drawn out text that’s going to turn him off and scare him away anyway.
- You cannot materialize the man you want out of thin air so if he has not revealed himself to you yet, then don’t fret. There are far worse things to be than single, like say edgeless for example. Take this time to focus on you. There’s nothing wrong with that, but don’t abandon yourself when the guy does comes along.
- Don’t let anyone make you feel like there’s something wrong with you because you’re single. In the past week I have been accused of being crazy, having bad sex, and being too picky as reasons why I’m single…by two different guys.
- Reflect on yourself and evaluate what your personal insecurities are that may be the cause of failed relationships and situations in the past. Be secure enough with yourself not to allow anyone to manipulate your feelings.
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